Have you shared about an accomplishment, celebrated about something you’ve overcome or are proud of, some on to have someone else try to dim your confidence or knock you down? When we reveal our confidence and accomplishments; it may trigger others who lack confidence in themselves.
It wasn’t until I started to really dive into personal development books and podcasts this past year, where I started to evolve and find confidence in myself. Since I started to invest more into my mindset, I have made it a mission of mine to live my life in a way where I work ridiculously hard and fast, and go after the things I want to accomplish. With this mindset shift, I’ve accomplished more this past year than I could have ever imagined.
On my personal Facebook page I am constantly sharing about things that inspire me including quotes, mantras, things I love, and things I have overcome and accomplished. Those wins that I have shared are shared with the intentions to show others that they too can go after anything they want to achieve.
Recently I made this post on my Facebook page and shortly after I received a message from a woman, who used to a be a friend of mine, saying,
What I see is constant bragging and boasting. Self Praise.” She continued on suggesting that, “being humble is a good thing. I hope I planted a seed of humility. It is good to have self confidence, but bad to have too much.”
After opening up this message, I was completely taken back. And all I could think of was this girl truly does not know me, what my intentions are, and how I live my life in a way that is dedicated to making others feel inspired and to dream bigger.
She took it upon herself to try to dim my confidence and I know exactly where that comes from.
When you are confident in yourself, it will trigger others who don’t feel certain or confident about themselves. This is just how it is.
Now, there are tons of people out there who are inspired by other’s confidence, and I am one of those people. When I see another person be proud of what they have done, to declare their wins, to be happy with themselves and how they are celebrating their life. I am like YOU GO! But that is because I am secure with myself.
Now not everyone is like this. And this girl clearly was triggered by me and felt that it was necessary to share that I needed to lessen my self confidence.
Now this doesn’t happen often. But when any brings insults or negativity into my space, I immediately delete and block.
And after receiving this message from this girl, it had really got me thinking about how often we dim our confidence and how often we shrink ourselves, because we don’t want to make others feel uncomfortable.
Think of how many times you have held back on something you were so excited or proud about, or how many times you wrote a post on Facebook and then deleted it, or went to message a friend about something big that happened but you never sent it. I know I have done this and dialed back so many times in fear of coming across as bragging, being full of myself or making someone else feel badly.
You know what.. that STOPS TODAY!
We are letting that all go.
We must release that fear of being cocky or full of ourselves.
You must realize that it is necessary to share your wins and accomplishments with others, because all that is contagious. Confidence is contagious. You are going to inspire someone else and lift others up.
If you happen to trigger others along the way that is NOT your problem.
Now, I know within the network marketing industry MANY women are so hesitant about sharing about their wins, accomplishments or products they love on social media because of their fear that they have of what others may think of them. I get responses from women all the time saying, “I am too afraid to share more about myself because I don’t want to look like I am full of myself or promoting myself.”
If you aren’t out there going hard for yourself or promoting yourself, how do you expect others to get behind you, your product or business and get into it?
Could you imagine if I was too scared to get behind the camera to create a photos or videos or to work with clients in my makeup chair? If I hesitated do these things, I wouldn’t be changing lives. And I do not take that lightly.
If you have something whether its a opportunity, a product, a blog or a video that you are confident in putting out in the world but are too afraid to do it and you don’t share it with people, you are depriving the world of something where you can truly make an impact. And you are depriving yourself from being able to experience and celebrate yourself and what you love to do.
Over this past fall I’ve started to highlight more about what I’ve accomplished this past year, in hopes to inspire others. I am so grateful and worked really hard for all of it and it was a big year.
Here are some of the things I had worked for years to accomplish but made happen this past year:
- I graduated college with a double major in marketing and mass communication and a minor in sport management from Linfield College.
- I finished up my last season of college softball.
- I made the deans list in my last semester in college.
- I launched my freelance makeup business.
- My Younique team hit Green Status twice, which recognized me as a leader and my team in the top 2 percent ranks of Younique. After hitting Green Status a second time I qualified for the Younified Retreat. Younfied is a retreat hosted by Younique in Utah at the Younique Corporate headquarters.
- I earned a free all inclusive trip for me and a plus one to Punta Cana. It was incredible and I was able to take my mom for her birthday.
While sharing about these things, I have shared about a lot of the heartbreaks, tears, stress and anxiety that came up along the way to achieving those things. In a lot of those posts where I shared about these accomplishments they weren’t just a list of everything I did but I also included the price I had to pay for, for all of those things I achieved. During the entire time, I had to grit through it because I knew the journey was worth it.
So when you are thinking about putting yourself out there, talking about your wins and accomplishments, and think about your intentions behind it. Think about how it can help some one else.
You’re not doing these things to take away from someone else or to brag. We can never take away from anyone’s success. If I have a big win, it can’t take anything away from you and vice versa. If you get something, it doesn’t mean there is less of it for me.
When we share good things its because are proud of them and we want to inspire others that they to can accomplish those things if they wish. Or accomplish anything they want to set their minds to.
You can always share things, but put a spin on it to inspire some one else.
Now go share something you’ve been holding back on and let the fear go and put it out there proudly.
Let me know in the comments how that goes and how you feel doing that! I promise you your energy will change and you will inspire someone else.